They were on their way to anger management counseling. She was driving because he had his license suspended. Thank goodness he didn’t hit her with that beer bottle in his lap. WHY IS SHE WITH SUCH A FREAK ANYWAY…???? This can’t be the first time.
Domestic Violence is no laughing matter, a woman dies every 9 minutes in this country alone and is abused every 10 seconds!
Being abused is bad enough, imagine being attacked when you are in the helpless position of having to operate a vehicle and try to keep yourself safe and the other people on the road safe as well. Abusers attack this way to ensure there is no way for the victim to fight back.
We should be asking ourselves what control do these abusers have over thier victims that prevents them from being able to get out not and how can we help, instead of asking why the victims stay. Would you ask a rape victim why she was raped? In most of these cases, the abusers threaten to cause serious harm to the victims family (including children) so the victims feel if they stay the remainder of thier families will be safe. Sometimes there is no money to leave and the victims stay to secure a roof over thier childrens heads and food (it is better than living in a homeles shelter where woman/children are raped) or there has been a history of abuse in the victims family so they do not feel this relationship is abnormal.
I would hope all readers of this article would take an opportunity to learn something about domestic violence and what they can do to better educate themselves about this serious issue that faces our communities.
You can learn more at the National Domestic Abuse Website: www. ndvh.org
lmr, I see you quote some statistics for abuse against women but fail to note that 45% of all domestic violence is caused by women being violent towards men. I would hope you are just as concerned about women beating on men as your are about men beating on women, otherwise your hypocrisy sours your argument.
Nobody on this forum is advocating violence. We’re laughing at an idiot who decided the exact wrong time to be an idiot and was injured because of it. Tragedy + separation = comedy.
Not sure where you get your data from but I would suggest you recalculate. I work for a domestic violence agencyas both a shelter and outreach advocate. I work with both victims and abusers and I am a survivor myself. Our services are provided to all genders, cultures and sexual orientations. I am comfortable stating that 90% of the people using our services are women and children (maybe your 45% are sons of abusers – – you will note I used the word ABUSER and not HUSBAND or BOYFRIEND!) I did this specifically to include both male and female.
Read some of the posts (maybe not yours) and you will see there was more going on than laughing at an idiot. What a sad state of affairs it is when something like this becomes humorous at all don’t you think? When did this become OK? Maybe we should take pity and be thankful it was not ourselves or somebody we knew personally.
I called out female-on-male violence because you quoted statistics specifically related to male-on-female violence. I think the debate is much healthier when you use the word “abuser” in place of a gender-specific identifier such as “husband”, “wife” or such. Using gender-neutral terms in this discussion opens it up to the fact that violence in general is wrong and people have a right to their own persons and to be treated equally under the law. Unfortunately we do not have equal treatment under the law and there is gender disparity in the resources available. Men are seen as requiring less help than women when it comes to domestic abuse and violence. This is a harmful stereotype and needs to be addressed.
Because of this stereotype so much violence against men goes unreported and unaddressed. It’s seen as okay for a woman to slap a man – as Katie Couric did on air – but were a man to slap a woman he’d be in jail. We must work to end this disparity and treat all violence as equal, open up resources to all who have experienced violence (I despise the word “victim”) and treat all who commit violence against others equally according to laws that are blind to gender.
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They were on their way to anger management counseling. She was driving because he had his license suspended. Thank goodness he didn’t hit her with that beer bottle in his lap. WHY IS SHE WITH SUCH A FREAK ANYWAY…???? This can’t be the first time.
Doesn’t the guy know it’s the drivers of other vehicles that you’re supposed to whup on?
Domestic Violence is no laughing matter, a woman dies every 9 minutes in this country alone and is abused every 10 seconds!
Being abused is bad enough, imagine being attacked when you are in the helpless position of having to operate a vehicle and try to keep yourself safe and the other people on the road safe as well. Abusers attack this way to ensure there is no way for the victim to fight back.
We should be asking ourselves what control do these abusers have over thier victims that prevents them from being able to get out not and how can we help, instead of asking why the victims stay. Would you ask a rape victim why she was raped? In most of these cases, the abusers threaten to cause serious harm to the victims family (including children) so the victims feel if they stay the remainder of thier families will be safe. Sometimes there is no money to leave and the victims stay to secure a roof over thier childrens heads and food (it is better than living in a homeles shelter where woman/children are raped) or there has been a history of abuse in the victims family so they do not feel this relationship is abnormal.
I would hope all readers of this article would take an opportunity to learn something about domestic violence and what they can do to better educate themselves about this serious issue that faces our communities.
You can learn more at the National Domestic Abuse Website: www. ndvh.org
lmr, I see you quote some statistics for abuse against women but fail to note that 45% of all domestic violence is caused by women being violent towards men. I would hope you are just as concerned about women beating on men as your are about men beating on women, otherwise your hypocrisy sours your argument.
Nobody on this forum is advocating violence. We’re laughing at an idiot who decided the exact wrong time to be an idiot and was injured because of it. Tragedy + separation = comedy.
Not sure where you get your data from but I would suggest you recalculate. I work for a domestic violence agencyas both a shelter and outreach advocate. I work with both victims and abusers and I am a survivor myself. Our services are provided to all genders, cultures and sexual orientations. I am comfortable stating that 90% of the people using our services are women and children (maybe your 45% are sons of abusers – – you will note I used the word ABUSER and not HUSBAND or BOYFRIEND!) I did this specifically to include both male and female.
Read some of the posts (maybe not yours) and you will see there was more going on than laughing at an idiot. What a sad state of affairs it is when something like this becomes humorous at all don’t you think? When did this become OK? Maybe we should take pity and be thankful it was not ourselves or somebody we knew personally.
Lighten up Francis.
BTW, I bet most men who are abused don’t report it since it would make them look weak.
lma, here’s one study – http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/V70%20version%20N3.pdf, and a link to many more articles and studies – http://themansnononsenseguidetowomen.com/PopUps/DomesticViolence.html.
I called out female-on-male violence because you quoted statistics specifically related to male-on-female violence. I think the debate is much healthier when you use the word “abuser” in place of a gender-specific identifier such as “husband”, “wife” or such. Using gender-neutral terms in this discussion opens it up to the fact that violence in general is wrong and people have a right to their own persons and to be treated equally under the law. Unfortunately we do not have equal treatment under the law and there is gender disparity in the resources available. Men are seen as requiring less help than women when it comes to domestic abuse and violence. This is a harmful stereotype and needs to be addressed.
Because of this stereotype so much violence against men goes unreported and unaddressed. It’s seen as okay for a woman to slap a man – as Katie Couric did on air – but were a man to slap a woman he’d be in jail. We must work to end this disparity and treat all violence as equal, open up resources to all who have experienced violence (I despise the word “victim”) and treat all who commit violence against others equally according to laws that are blind to gender.
90% of all statistics are inaccurate
…as reported by 75% of all studies.