Man Sues over Alleged Sexual Abuse by Franciscan Brother

November 30, 2007

  • November 30, 2007 at 10:20 am
    Cade says:
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    If the abuse happened, lock up the perp.

    HOWEVER, I was sexually abused as a teenager, and through therapy, I GOT OVER IT.
    So do thousands who did not have the good fortune to be abused by someone belonging to a religious order.

    Stop, for God’s sake, begging for $$. Start begging, instead, for justice.

    Prosecute and jail the offenders if they are alive. Only if they are dead should monetary damages be awarded. And if the chuch heirarchy was involved, jail those with knowledge for facilitating a felony.

  • November 30, 2007 at 12:56 pm
    Susan B Anthony says:
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    I have been victimized too and could care less to see again less known SUE for recompense for what happened to me. I am so over it and am a happy, well-adjusted, fully functioning and sexually active human being. My thing is that people should “OUT” these folks before they further harm others. Getting money doesn’t solve anything and you should be man or woman enough to just stand up to the abusers, point the finger and let justice be served. Jail time and expulsion are more than satisfying. Even if they are dead money should not be award. What’s that saying? A man’s deeds will follow him to the grave or something like that.

    The abuser’s reputation will be damaged and really a fund should be set up to assist victims with therapy not make them insta-millionaires. More money, more problems. It’s like having a wino win the lottery. Most of these people are not taking these settlements and getting themselves some help. Money can sometimes only aggravate the pre-existing conditions.

  • November 30, 2007 at 1:53 am
    WooWooWoo says:
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    Both of the earlier comments are correct. This guy really needs to get over what happened 30 years ago and get on with his life.

    It would not hurt were he less self-absorbed and spent some time and energy helping others. Productive, meaningful WORK really does do wonders.

  • November 30, 2007 at 2:07 am
    Ins Agt says:
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    I live in Carlsbad, California and I have never heard of either San Jose Catholic Church or St. Edward Catholic Church of Carlsbad.

    Likewise, I have never heard of the Carlsbad Current-Argus newspaper.

    Are the publisher’s facts accurate? If these facts are inaccurate, what about the rest of this article?

  • November 30, 2007 at 2:12 am
    I Disagree says:
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    Being sexually abused as a child myself, I can understand the reason for the suit.
    It brings closure, if anything. I kept my secret for 3 years until I had the nerve to tell my mother what had happened to me
    (I was 13 when I was finally “set free”) by my uncle, someone I thought I could trust. I felt so relieved I was happy just to be set free of carrying the burden for those years. I couldn’t care less of what would happen to my uncle…but that was the strange part….back in the 60’s, this was NEVER discussed and never handled – it was always “swept under the rug”.

    Unfortunately, that was the start of many years of therapy for me. I am still going thorugh it. I was never able to confront him. I did confront my aunt and cousins…total denial. Now that he has passed away, I cannot forgive myself for not facing him and make him take responsibility for what he did.

    So you see, that is why I have to disagree with you. This man has no other recourse other than civil court. The statute of limitations has run out for any type of criminal prosecution. It’s just that some people are stronger than others and each case has its own story.

    Please don’t be so quick to jusge……

  • November 30, 2007 at 2:21 am
    prop cas lady says:
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    Carlsbad NM. that’s why it references Las Cruces NM and the TX area. :)

  • November 30, 2007 at 3:05 am
    WooWooWoo says:
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    Nicely stated, but the fact remains that the man is after money.

    If what you are saying is that money cures the hurt, I guess you are entitled to that position. However, wallowing in 30 years of unhappiness does not seem to me to be at all productive–and is probably destructive.

  • November 30, 2007 at 3:18 am
    Susan B Anthony says:
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    To I Disagree,

    I understand your point totally. My abuses were a mixture of neighbors, babysitters and relatives so really I should be screwed up but I am not. Two of my abusers were uncles and I see them sporadically which REALLY helps. The hardest thing was telling my husband because of what his possible attitude would be and being a former Navy guy, you can correctly guess I had my reservations if he wouldn’t kill my uncle. I love my uncles but I don’t have to be around them and my family found out when I was 16. I have no clue if my dad confronted his younger brother but I feel free too that it was no longer hidden inside me.

    Be that as it may, a stranger I would still rather see in jail because there is a “code” for molesters in the prison system and in a morbid way, I would rather they get a taste of their own medicine in the pen than get money from them. That money would remind me of what I had to go through to get it. See my point? I could to Macy’s and shop till I drop but in the midnight hour I would still have to wrestle with those demons. There’s not enough Michael Kors or Ralph Lauren in my closet ro cover the pain and it’s really kind of weird to get paid for that. I would rather safeguards be put in place to make sure it never happens again too.

  • November 30, 2007 at 3:19 am
    I Disagree says:
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    What I am saying has nothing to do with money and all to do with making the person accountable for his crime. In my point of view, if my uncle were still alive, I would sue in a Civil Court – no statute there in California….I would probably sue for $1.00 – this would make my uncle “face the music”.

    Again, please don’t judge me until you have wilked a mile in my shoes. Abuse is abuse….until it happens to you, please don’t judge…..

  • November 30, 2007 at 3:22 am
    I Disagree says:
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    Susan….I agree with you…sorry to hear that you had it much worse than I.



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